When a group of students are encouraging each other negatively it is important that we think proactively to ensure that those behaviors are not destroying the culture of that grade level. This approach gives these groups of friends some time apart but reminds them of what their teachers are looking for in order for them to sit with each other at lunch. On this particular seating chart I chose 5 consecutive days because I noted that these students would improve for a day or two but it did not stimulate them enough to make some lasting changes. This also helped me figure out which students in the group are struggling the most. The ones that met their goals each day would regain access to sitting wherever they wanted to at lunch so when 4 out of 6 students earn the right to choose their seats at lunch and 2 do not it opens up the door to meet with those specific students and see what they are struggling with.
Guiding questions: I noticed that you and your friends have a difficult time doing the right things when you are all together. Why do you think that is? Maybe if you show your other friends respectful behavior they may want to do well also. I noticed that two of your friends haven’t earning the privilege of sitting with the rest of you guys yet. This is unfortunate. How do you think you can best encourage them? I noticed that you still haven’t earned the right to sit with your friends during lunch. What are you struggling with the most? Is there anything I can do to help you reach this goal? I am here to help. I just want to let you know that I spoke to your friends and their rooting for you. They believe that you can work on getting back with them for lunch. How do you think your behavior has impacted our community or specific teacher? What were your intentions for speaking to Ms(r). ____ that way?